Tips for Being a Great Mentor
Having a great mentor can do wonders for your professional development and career. Describe what you’ve learned from them and how those skills will help your career going forward. Don’t focus on the relationship’s inadequacies—accentuate the positive. Effective mentorship takes time. Mentors trade away hours they could use to chase their own career goals and spend them on someone else’s.
- Mentoring is about instituting a partnership that helps your protege learn. It is not about your being an expert or the authority.
- Great mentors foster discovery, they don’t coach; thought-provoking questions are much more powerful than smart answers.
- Your protege will learn more if you create a association that is safe and comfortable. Be authentic, open, and sincere.
- Your rank or position is your greatest obligation—act more like a friend than a boss.
- Great listening comes from genuine curiosity and obvious attentiveness.
- Give feedback with a strong focus on the future, not a heavy rehash of the past.
- Mentoring is not just about what you say in a mentoring session; it is also about how you support your protege after the session. Focus on helping your protege transfer learning back to the workplace.
- If your mentoring relationship is not working like you hoped it would, clearly communicate your apprehensions to your protege.
- Mentoring relationships are intended to be temporary. When your protege has met his or her mentoring goals, be willing to let the relationship end.
Tips for Being a Great Mentee
The best mentors avoid overriding the dreams of their mentees. If an employee and a job aren’t a good fit, or if an ambitious employee realistically has limited upward mobility in a company, a good mentor will help that employee move on. They might be better suited to another role within the organization, or even to a new path somewhere else.
- Select a mentor who can help you be the best you can be, not one you think can help you get a promotion.
- Remember, you can sometimes learn more from people who are different than from people who are “just like you.”
- Get transparent on your goals and expectations for a mentoring relationship.
- Communicate your goals and expectations in your first meeting.
- Mentoring is about learning, not looking good in front of your mentor. Be yourself and be willing to take risks and experiment with new skills and ideas.
- When your mentor gives you advice or feedback, work hard to hear it as a gift. Just because it may be painful does not mean it is not beneficial.
- If your mentoring relationship is not working like you hoped it would, clearly communicate your concerns to your mentor.
- Great mentoring relationships take two people—a partnership. Look in the mirror before you conclude a poor mentoring relationship is all about your mentor.
- Mentoring relationships are designed to be temporary. When you have met your mentoring goals, be willing to let the relationship end.