An old adage reminds us that those who refuse to learn from history are doomed to repeat it. So, it is with our failures. And, Henry Ford once said “Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.”
Unless you learn from your failures, you are likely to repeat them until you learn from your experiences and correct your course. Every setback in life contains helpful information that might, if reflected and acted upon, will ultimately lead you to your success.
- Contemplate before you proceed. Don’t respond right away or on impulse when faced with a problem or a failure. Take into consideration different reactions and the consequences.
- Pay attention and communicate. Do not presume that you know what others think. Perception is reality. Collect comments and feedback, clarify your positions, and discuss your own actions, reactions, and intentions.
- Don’t think of “what might have been”. Don’t get so caught up in “what might have been” instead of stepping back and looking at where you can improve. Successful people are most concerned with following up and finishing.
- Search for a lesson. Mistakes and failures are bound to happen in all spheres of your endeavor. Failure is often poorly understood. Do not look for somebody to blame. Instead, hypothesize about the nature of the failure and understand how you could prevent it from happening again.
Look at failure for what it truly is: a chance to be realistic, to discover constructive truths, to be honest with yourself, and to reassess expectations. With no hardship, difficulties, and failure, you could never develop wisdom, and without wisdom, success would be short lived.
Remember, “A setback is a set up for a comeback.”